For two days now we have seen the sun, and a warm breeze is touching my face. I have just emerged from a time of deep depression. My depression was speaking to me, giving me orders in fact, and false information. (I have considered that depression and schizophrenia are perhaps much more similar than we might think). “You have no friends,” depression tells me .” You are on your own here, no one can even see you, you barely exist. You are not managing on your own, and life is inevitably going to become even more difficult. The solution is to stop in your tracks. You should quit singing in the choir. Yes, I know you love to sing, but you don’t belong there, you can see that everyone thinks that. Don’t go to your day program, you need time at home alone, that will be better for you. Delete your Facebook. Cut yourself off from that cruel world. Turn off your phone – it is easier not to talk to anyone. Perhaps you would be better off not being on this earth at all. Is this pain really worth it? Are YOU worth it?”
“You should pull your socks up,” that’s what people say. “Put a smile on your face.” How we hate hearing those words. A forced smile is such a rictus, your mind feels worse around the edges. Ridiculous. If I could make myself feel better I would.
But truthfully, there is no other way. We actually do have to pull ourselves out of our own depression. First we have to confront that seductive voice. Deep, deep inside us we know that depression is lying to us. We have to say no, again and again. We have to take a step, a small step, in the direction of health. We move through brain-fog, our feet feel weighed down, every step is painful, but we need to keep going, one foot in front of the other. Somewhere ahead, where we can’t see at this moment, there is improvement, and we struggle to get there, maybe not today, with its heavy grey sky, maybe not tomorrow. One day there will be a tiny crack in the darkness, we will almost feel the ghost of hope brushing up against us. Someone’s kind word will nourish us, fuel for the journey. We are getting closer and closer. I promise you that.